Things I learned in June

Wow, June went by quickly. I really enjoy writing about what I’m learning so I’m going to continue in this self-gratifying post monthly.

1. Their is a reason different and exotic foods aren’t mainstream. I love that Teachmama has her kids try new exotic foods and we’ve done it before, but with little success. But we are 0 and 2 of late. If you’ve ever shopped at Wegmans you’ve probably noticed the section in the produce area that is full of weird looking fruits and vegetables you’ve never seen before except for the plantains. The girls and I like to guess what they will taste like, but then leave it at that. Well I was feeling brave twice this month. First we tried the adorable looking Kumquats. Everything about them is cute from their name, to their size, to their jaunty orange color. How bad can they be… They are gross. The description said sweet outside and tangy inside. They were right the peel actually was a little sweet, but the inside juice was tangy, tart and yucky all at once. Also you find out quickly that they have a seed inside…. what… they tell you that you can eat the whole thing… my 5 year old almost choked. Fast forward to two weeks later and we are there again, but this time a lady that worked at the produce department was talking about the mangosteen and was going to try it, I was interested and went with her. The mangosteen is nothing pretty to look at it has spikes and is about the size of a plum. She took one and gave one to me – you have to crack open the outer shell which is pretty simple, and then you see a peeled grape looking thing inside. I tasted it – amazing, it is a mix between a grape and a plum in taste and there is a big pit inside, but it’s easy to eat around. I’m was so excited, my kids are going to love this I thought, I’m going to buy dozens and hand them out to my friends and be the biggest mangosteen pusher in PA. Then I look… each one of these little fruits that really only yield about two grapes worth of yummy flesh cost $2.99 each. Yup $3 bucks… doh… I passed on that idea.newfood2. I’ve almost given up facebook since I’ve found instagram. But I’d give them both up in heart beat if I had to choose between them and pinterest!
3. There are so many people I want to thank and keep in touch with and I’m not doing a really good job with it… I’m learning that I need to set aside time daily to communicate with others by the written word, and it feels nice.
4. Having my girls help me make gifts is a win, win, win. They get to be creative, they can pick out their friends gifts, and we spend time together. I have a pinterest board called Super Awesome Gifts to make and I have the girls go through it with me and we talk about what the person would want and if we could actually make it. We made these friendship bracelet kits with printables from Eighteen25 and these cute embroidery holders from wild olive (I laminated them and the girls helped wind them).present5. I love taking photos, photoshop, and doing new things on the blog, but it all takes time to learn and I need to limit how much time I devote to hobbies that don’t bring in income, and take time away from the family.
6. This one is definitely the biggest and the one I’ve been struggling the most with. I’ve become obsessed with race. As a mom knowing that I will not be able to offer my son one on one knowledge of what it is like to be African and perceived as African American in society is hard, even now before I know him. I’ve been reading books like I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla and Black Baby White Hands. But I find myself being very aware of being in a place and everyone is white. I feel self conscious and worried, about choices we are making and trying to make sure that our son grows up in a very diverse setting where he can see lots of role models that share the same skin color as he does. I really liked Christena Cleveland’s post on idolizing diversity. I love her honesty and the beautiful way that she gives it all to God. Sadly, I’m coming at the topic from a different side, being someone who has always benefitted as being from the majority race – not intentionally and for a long time not even aware of it… but now as our family prepares to become whole through adoption I can’t help to pray that God will please give me the wisdom, grace and understanding to bring up my son in a place where he is no longer in the racial majority . I don’t want him to focus on the difference between him and his parents but at the same time I want him to cherish and love his ethnicity, heritage and culture. I am struggling with feeling inept about how I won’t be able to teach him some things because I won’t have the experience of it. I think that Kristen from Rage Against the Minivan says it so well in this post.

That’s it… well probably some other things… but now they have been forgotten – at least these are in print so there should be a better chance that I don’t forget them.
I’m linking up at Chatting at the Sky – it’s a beautifully written blog check it out.

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2 Responses to “Things I learned in June”

  1. LISA MORELAND June 28, 2013 at 1:19 pm # Reply

    Kuddos for the efforts you are making to inform yourself about a biracial family. Having addressed this issue within a teaching context for many years and I have extended family that adopted from Asian and African origins: I can say that you will find many children’s books on this topic and excellent counseling based resources as well. Your family will be blessed by the journey.

    • Kelly June 28, 2013 at 4:12 pm # Reply

      Thanks Lisa. I love Walking by the Way’s list of adoption books and cool interracial adoptive books for kids. It’s hard waiting for the adoption to complete but there is joy in knowing that the more time the more time I have to read. :)

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